I spend way too much time browsing Reddit, YouTube/Twitch, and Facebook. Thankfully, I never got into Insta or TikTok. I want to drastically reduce the amount of time I spend interacting with these sites, but they feel so deeply engrained into my psyche that it feels nearly impossible.
I've tried some of the simpler suggestions like configuring a Tampermonkey extension to limit access, or installing Cold Turkey (https://getcoldturkey.com/). The problem is that I know how to work around these things (you can just edit your clock time to mitigate Cold Turkey ...) and so, eventually, the cravings become enough that I do so even though it's not in my best interest.
Another issue is that sometimes sites have valuable information. For example, some subreddits have useful information related to programming, fitness, etc. and I'll encounter them through a Google search. If I'm prevented from accessing this information when doing legitimate research then I find that frustrating and wish there was an exception to the rule. I'm not sure how grounded that stance is, though.
In the physical world, I've had great success defeating habits by limiting physical access. I don't keep snacks at home and, if I must, I'll put them in a timed, locking container (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00E9J3MLM) such that I'm unable to open it when having a craving. This helped me with things like delicious toppings for salads which I wanted to keep on-hand, but not be tempted by 24/7.
The problem is more challenging when working with digital addictions. I'm wondering what my options are here? I assume something related to parental controls at/near the hardware level and a time-release password? Not sure if anything time-based is viable if I can just mess with my computer's clock time, but maybe if it dials out to a third-party server for timing info and I don't go so far as to MITM the response? I'd prefer solutions that I'm able to implement myself rather than relying on repeatedly handing passwords off to friends, but am understanding if that's a hard requirement.
Anyone had any success here? Thanks!
Well I'm sure you could come up with a few ways to work around your locking container but why isn't that also a problem? I think it comes down to the level of "activation energy" it requires, which may include breaking it open and also getting a new one.
In a similar way your digital block needs to have a high enough activation energy (both in getting around it and then turning it back on) that it effectively blocks you. It doesn't need to be impossible, it doesn't even really need to be that hard since we tend to be tempted with these things when feeling at a low energy (or we would be doing something else). As an example, I have the leechblock extension where turning it off would require uninstalling it or typing in something really long, I havent touched it in years.
Think of it as an aid to will power, you'll need higher obstacles the lower your wall of will power (a limited resource)
> Another issue is that sometimes sites have valuable information.
You should try blocking the feeds and recommendeds instead. Setup some regex rules, use ublock lists, get extensions which block the home page etc. But you shouldn't block them permanently, set just enough time to catch up / remind yourself that most of the content is useless then move on
In fact, blocking tools can actually make this worse. Using a blocking tool is tacitly saying "I can't control myself. I need to hand control to something outside of myself" This basically reinforces the belief that you cannot control your problematic consumption.
You need strategies that reinforce the opposite belief: You are in control of your usage.
I recommend looking into books like Feeling Good and Feeling Great. Get a greater understanding of your emotional state and work out how that feeds into your social media usage.
There are some tools that are useful. The first is time tracking tools. They let you look back on your day and work out how you spent your time. What are the patterns of your usage. Do you always end up struggling after lunch? Or in the evening? What are your triggers?
While I wouldn't recommend blocking sites completely, blocking the most distracting parts of sites can be useful. If you're studying from youtube videos, using a plugin that blocks comments and suggested videos is extremely useful. This means you will no longer catch a glimpse of a thumbnail of something interesting and go off task.
Overall, you have to tackle your emotions and your beliefs about yourself.
What do you want to do instead of digital media consumption? If you do more of those you'll naturally have less time for browsing.
For me, that's been taking up the following (the specific items change with time, but when I notice myself spending more time mindlessly scrolling it is a good reminder that I need something else to keep me busy):
* Running (with race goals) - doing this 4x a week sure takes up a lot of my time.
* Physical meetups (local philosophy groups, museum events, actively scheduling coffee with friends, etc)
* Crafts (cross stitch - started when I took on an ambitious Birthday gift project for my boyfriend and now it's kind of a meditative experience)
* Studying (part-time university course where I have to read a paper and complete a study guide once a week)
Those four things, along with full time work, don't leave much time for mindless scrolling unless I intentionally want to just chill and schedule a block of that in (and I don't feel guilty about doing that anymore because with all the other stuff enriching my life I feel there's nothing wrong with some occasional browsing).
1. I uninstalled the mobile apps and turned on 'desktop site' view on my phone browser. That way I never really "quit", but the experience of scrolling comes with so much friction that I don't feel like opening it unless absolutely necessary. The added battery life is a bonus.
2. I reduced my feed with extreme prejudice. My fomo wasn't letting me unfollow pages, so I moved them to alt account/custom feeds/bookmarks. Muted the remaining ones except the handful friends I wanted to see updates from.
Finally, don't be hard on yourself. You're going against meticulously engineered data streams that have been perfected over the years with the assistance of top behavioral scientists.
- For Youtube, delete and disable watch history. This will make the "home" and "shorts" tabs blank, and make the below-video recommendations less effective. Your subscriptions and everything else will still work normally. Also uninstall the app from your phone, so you have to access it in a browser (even on Android you can "disable" it).
- For Reddit, block r/all (and maybe / (home)) in your adblocker on all your devices. (For ublock origin the rule is ||reddit.com/r/all^$document ) The block can easily be clicked through, but that means you'll leave it in place for next time. Non-r/all pages will still work. Again, uninstall any apps.
I don't have similar advice for Facebook and Twitch; maybe unfollow everyone on Twitch so you have to look up channels intentionally?
Now I only watch videos from my subscriptions as opposed to whatever the algorithm feed me.
In general, focus on good content, cut out bad content.
2. Install the LeechBlock extension [2] in the browser on all your devices. Lock out the sites you want to lose from your life. You can add a time-limited override for some, if you want. Dont feel bad or weak about yourself for doing this: these sites are largely designed with psychological input to be addictive.
3. Find something else to do. If its reading, always have a book in progress and one that you'll read next. Or cooking, exercise, sex, study, whatever.
4. Exercise anyway. Hydrate, sleep well.
[1] Don't use gmail - google are not on your side. Get a domain and use a proper email service like fastmail or protonmail. Sign up for kagi and dump google search.
[2] Available for Firefox, Chrome, Edge, etc. via the browser extension stores.
Thing about tricks of any kind, like boundaries around when you get the thing is that you don't end up really addressing the root causes of the issue. If you're just locking up your computer or fencing yourself off you're not actually mastering self-control and discipline. If you're handing control to others you're burdening them and messing with your adult relationship. Like it's not healthy imho.
I'm not advocating that you should quit cold turkey or that those methods you describe about not snacking are not worth it. Breaking a real addiction often requires drastic measures. But it's much better to do the actual work on your root emotions to understand yourself. Especially if you're an adult and we're talking about something low-stakes. A part of that involves also accepting that you can let yourself sometimes have the thing and the world won't end.
I deliberately left many social media websites, and I regularly simply uninstall Instagram, video games. But I've also accepted that they're sometimes just fine and I will sporadically hop on them for a couple days. I've noticed their addictive potential is greatly reduced. I've found that rotating and shifting between them makes them more enjoyable but also makes me more dynamic less passive.
For the online world actually participating makes a huge difference. Putting yourself out there, be it typing out a comment or making a video is a much more rewarding experience as opposed to passive consumption.
But yeeah long story short what you really want to work on is the underlying emotions and only you can do that in your mind.
FWIW asking tenants of HN for advice on this is like asking smokers how to stop smoking.
Delete any accounts you have with these services.
When you’re home, put your phone away, don’t carry it on you.
Read the book “How to break up with your phone” by Catherine Anne Price.
Have one or two books that every time you are tempted to go to one of those services you pick up and read that book instead.
Meditate. Exercise. Do gardening.
BUT ultimately… figure out the root cause of your addiction and work on that.
I unsubbed from all my subreddits a long time ago and don't really comment much. I engage with the site the same if I'm logged out. I'm pretty close to deleting my Facebook, but have at least trimmed friends down to below 100. I suppose I could at least make the transition to just using Messenger for Desktop instead of full-fledged Facebook to preserve the few contacts I message on that platform.
I'll give the book a skim and see if it has anything insightful. Thanks for the suggestion.
I agree I could be meditating more. I have a subscription for Ten Percent Happier and dabble in it, but rarely have streaks longer than a month. I agree that it's possible practicing meditation more heavily would give me a stronger ability to see my mind's desires and respond to them rather than being subject to them.
The actions just feel subconscious at this point. Like when tests/CI are running then I flick back to media on a second screen, or when I get stuck on a problem or am having trouble getting into the zone then I procrastinate by thumbing through media. These aren't really times where I feel I can get up and go do an entirely different activity that puts me away from the screen. It's more like a behavioral pattern that subtlety saps my efficiency when I'm trying to be productive, you know?
Try to read it by substituting “Sean Anderson” for “I” and critically evaluate what you think of Sean Anderson’s explanation…
One thing I noticed about the "hard stuff" that I procrastinate away from is that I am a very slow thinker, and usually, the reason why I don't get into it straight away is that the first idea I have is not the right one, and I kind of know that in the back of my brain, and so letting the ideas flow freely in the brain while doing something else helps the good solution cristallize in a slow way. So when that's the case, I just need to embrace that and work on something else that's simpler like small frontend stuff that gives you good satisfaction for very little thinking.
Anyways, other things that sort of works for me are : lifting small weights while waiting, or doing grip training (I am climbing, so these are things that help for that), or doing dead hangs (I work from home...). Take a short walk. Like I literally used to walk back and forth to the bathroom when I was a kid.
I think that something like a underdesk bike, that's connected to a game on your screen would be kind of nice, you'd pause it while you work, and when you build something, you'd add an extra mile to that game... I don't know, I'm just making stuff up now.
Back to work ffs.
Feels like I should be able to just browse the top of Reddit once a week and get the gist of what's happened, or limit my YouTube to a weekly "All In" podcast to get the interesting highlights, etc.
But surely you can also agree that environmental factors play a role in determining whether willpower is effective or not. When I was quitting smoking marijuana I didn't keep paraphernalia adjacent to me all day and tell myself to just deal with it. Same with alcohol. Exercise routines were easier to establish when paired with audiobooks, pre-committing to the activity socially or at least by laying the clothes out, etc.
The digital stuff has just been really challenging. I've been on a computer basically daily for 25+ years. I've used Reddit and Facebook daily for 15+ years. My profession, and, frankly, my identity, puts me on a computer all day and thus adjacent to my digital addictions. That has made it a lot more challenging.
I'm not even looking to use the computer less. I just want to be able to focus on long-form writing, software development, and less dopamine-inducing forms of online media.
It would require super-human sustained restraint to abstain from dopamine treats when on the computer all day. Have you considered spending less time at the machine?
After 5 years working remote I had similar concerns and started feeling alienated from myself and other people.
My solution was to pivot to industrial automation. I get to code, but also work with other people, cool robots, and visit factories. Some of them are loud and dirty but some are super interesting. I feel a lot healthier now. I am an introverted and hyperliterate person, but the lifestyle where I was 'locked in' to digital hyperreality all day was too much.
I tried all the coping skills to preserve my sanity while continuing to earn a Cloud Capital salary. None of them solved the problem of feeling like I was timesharing my own mind to the Machine, until I gave up trying to have it both ways. I wish you the best.