You are dating an ecosystem
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Fraterkes
24 minutes ago
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Sorta disconcerting (to me) the stuff that’s getting to the frontpage of hn lately
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flohrian
4 minutes ago
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I found this piece somewhat refreshing.

It presents a thought I have not thought about before. Whether, as some other commenters suggest, the hypothesis that you are dating an ecosystem, has always been true is a different question.

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tianqi
21 minutes ago
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This piece struck a chord with me. It captured that feeling so precisely. I can't be more grateful he put it into words for me. I get it.

My wife will notice a change in me tonight. That's because I've taken on another advisor.

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froidpink
7 minutes ago
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This post gives off the old "women shouldn't be reading or they'll get ideas" energy
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Arodex
21 minutes ago
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Again an article painting an idealized picture of the past that never existed.
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KitN
19 minutes ago
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But hasn't this always been the case? What is personality if not a weighted summation of the content they consume? Before the feeds and the algorithm it was books and gossips.
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hexbin010
16 minutes ago
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Right, books and gossip is exactly the same as modern tech and social media. Nothing to see
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chrystalkey
25 minutes ago
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This does not seem very well tought out, gives off more of a frustrated teen vibe.
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superb-owl
42 minutes ago
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Always has been
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gwd
25 minutes ago
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"Having lovers and friends is all good and fine, but I don't like yours, and you don't like mine" -- Eric Clapton
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zwnow
36 minutes ago
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Was just about to write, there is no difference to how dating worked back in the day. Its just more online.
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jeremyjh
25 minutes ago
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People have always been following influencers who will say anything in a partner is problematic for engagement metrics?

The closest thing I can think of to something like that were certain types of magazines but they'd come out monthly, you weren't steeped in it.

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komali2
19 minutes ago
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> The Instagram explore page that shapes her taste. The vocabulary borrowed from her favorite online therapist. Micro-influencers she follows without thinking. The TikTok algorithm that nudges her mood. The attachment style she diagnosed herself with.

> What used to be a disagreement becomes “emotional labor.” A bad mood gets labeled “toxic energy.” Forgetting to text becomes “avoidant attachment.” Opinions from friends, refreshed by the hour.

Smells like the angst of some recently dumped man. The girl is a slave to the whims of tik tok candy therapists but the boy is influenced by "ghosts." Please.

What this post is hitting upon correctly is that people are products of their environment, and trying to perfectly separate the two is impossible.

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agumonkey
29 minutes ago
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The socio-affective impact of unlimited internet seems to, also, be unlimited
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ramon156
19 minutes ago
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Concept is good, but this doesn't seem very thought out, and the AI generated image doesn't help
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