The forums of all the assorted open source NVR's would also be a good place to share your findings. Zoneminder, Shinobi, Frigate, etc... I mentioned Zoneminder as they are used by a number of corporations and requiring an outbound connection to a 3rd party would be a show stopper for many of them so this topic should be a shared concern.
[1] - https://wiki.zoneminder.com/Hardware_Compatibility_List#IP_C...
[2] - https://forums.zoneminder.com/
[3] - https://www.haproxy.org/